tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post1679804194761068909..comments2023-10-10T10:13:23.885-05:00Comments on Writing in the Bachs: HiStoryOther Maryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-29233513892632491812014-06-24T08:54:37.289-05:002014-06-24T08:54:37.289-05:00Thank you so very much.Thank you so very much.Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-8099661032550784252014-06-24T08:42:12.760-05:002014-06-24T08:42:12.760-05:00Thanks for that, and thanks to EO.Thanks for that, and thanks to EO.Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-91790227357367277962014-06-24T08:41:50.990-05:002014-06-24T08:41:50.990-05:00Thank you Elizabeth. Thank you Elizabeth. Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-48099415192827666182014-06-23T12:44:24.822-05:002014-06-23T12:44:24.822-05:00PS: I came to your blog via "Optimistic Exist...PS: I came to your blog via "Optimistic Existentialist".Elizabeth Varadan, Authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01708206753256682635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-31335468443923140772014-06-23T12:43:46.768-05:002014-06-23T12:43:46.768-05:00Beautifully written. My condolences for your loss,...Beautifully written. My condolences for your loss, but this is a lovely, if sad, remembrance.Elizabeth Varadan, Authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01708206753256682635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-56607440085412621262014-06-18T09:27:39.644-05:002014-06-18T09:27:39.644-05:00What a beautiful but sad retrospective. Wow. This ...What a beautiful but sad retrospective. Wow. This is incredible and I find it very emotional. Great writing Mary. Optimistic Existentialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11507986337866049924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-26680474049707707012014-06-13T10:28:19.694-05:002014-06-13T10:28:19.694-05:00Thank you Ayala. xo
Thank you Ayala. xo<br />Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-69447258051030380882014-06-13T06:35:28.380-05:002014-06-13T06:35:28.380-05:00My dear Mary, so sorry for your loss and so sorry ...My dear Mary, so sorry for your loss and so sorry for your heartbreak. xoayalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13243362803799877014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-39953691281590832322014-06-12T13:15:39.724-05:002014-06-12T13:15:39.724-05:00Thank you so much Ginny. I don't remember the...Thank you so much Ginny. I don't remember the sorrow of Johnny's death so much as missing him, or any siblings, while growing up. I vowed that I would do everything I could to have either no children or more than one - and I managed that. :o) I appreciate your hugs and friendship as well as your creativity, Ginny. xo Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-19757217847861719602014-06-12T09:19:42.131-05:002014-06-12T09:19:42.131-05:00Oh Mary, I know you as a strong and remarkable per...Oh Mary, I know you as a strong and remarkable person, but my heart breaks for the child you were, and the loss of your dear brother at such a young age. Thank you for sharing this piece of yourself. Hugs to you, my dear friend.Ginny Brannanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15298060016652737538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-4967033139925423002014-06-12T04:50:52.905-05:002014-06-12T04:50:52.905-05:00Thank you so much Mary. I haven't read the bo...Thank you so much Mary. I haven't read the book you mention, though others by Lamb, but I remember getting that sibling perspective from The Deep End of the Ocean, by Jacquelyn Mitchard, where a child is not ill, but snatched from the family.Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-8009720316503913332014-06-12T04:47:54.184-05:002014-06-12T04:47:54.184-05:00Thank you BW. I agree; even those of us who aren&...Thank you BW. I agree; even those of us who aren't writers are still story tellers.Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-63176102629285969892014-06-12T04:40:59.565-05:002014-06-12T04:40:59.565-05:00Thank you Kathy. Memory is an interesting thing. ...Thank you Kathy. Memory is an interesting thing. And as you said, one adapts, and sometimes adapts their memories and history too, I think.Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-26870461908926178642014-06-12T02:52:10.050-05:002014-06-12T02:52:10.050-05:00We sometimes forget the siblings of children who a...We sometimes forget the siblings of children who are sick or who die in our concern for the child and his or her parents. You tell the poignant story of the impact on sibs. I read a powerful book from this perspective as well: This Much I Know is True by Wally Lamb whose brother had schizophrenia. I love your final stanza- it touched my heart.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-46826995288873730972014-06-11T22:30:24.984-05:002014-06-11T22:30:24.984-05:00I think that as youngsters we build a combination ...I think that as youngsters we build a combination of memory and myth from what adults tell us, or recall for us. I think that's how we first build a map of the world and ourselves. So sorry that your's had such loss.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-67108950489259016762014-06-11T18:57:53.118-05:002014-06-11T18:57:53.118-05:00Heartfelt.....I think at that age, as difficult as...Heartfelt.....I think at that age, as difficult as it is to understand, there is a built in buffer that keeps us from getting out of control. That is about the earliest of my memories..age 3..for earlier ones I think I got them from old photos or my folks telling me something...I can't be sure...you wrote from a mature perspective which shows how one adapts after tragedy.Kathy Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12326495504453579091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-52321908636890512572014-06-11T13:15:02.091-05:002014-06-11T13:15:02.091-05:00Thanks for reading Pat. Thanks for reading Pat. Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-2348378423282244312014-06-11T13:14:34.723-05:002014-06-11T13:14:34.723-05:00Thank you Sumana. I never touched on their reacti...Thank you Sumana. I never touched on their reactions, but yes, it was hearbreaking for them. Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-50456603150232535432014-06-11T10:51:15.258-05:002014-06-11T10:51:15.258-05:00Never knowing what to say sure had to be tough. Wh...Never knowing what to say sure had to be tough. When sick it is hard indeed on all. Pat Hatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07745293224202430152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-42771249024043240902014-06-11T09:00:04.609-05:002014-06-11T09:00:04.609-05:00the poem is deeply touching Mary...how hard it mus...the poem is deeply touching Mary...how hard it must have been for the parents to lose a child...we<br />are really so helpless...a beautiful poem...Sumana Royhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17333363799083094084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-45058252983256483592014-06-11T08:21:59.279-05:002014-06-11T08:21:59.279-05:00Thank you Jennifer. And I did go back and forth c...Thank you Jennifer. And I did go back and forth changing voices/ tenses quite a few times before I settled on this. Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-34433471121428467902014-06-11T08:20:24.187-05:002014-06-11T08:20:24.187-05:00Thank you Cat. You're right, it's so comp...Thank you Cat. You're right, it's so complex, I think my understanding was very limited and simplistic.Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-23731560407643028842014-06-11T07:56:23.629-05:002014-06-11T07:56:23.629-05:00Heartbreaking, but beautifully and thoughtfully pr...Heartbreaking, but beautifully and thoughtfully presented. I like how you alternate between the childlike voice of memories and the adult reflections on those memories.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13151381250841886227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-59438294468823031222014-06-11T07:49:53.265-05:002014-06-11T07:49:53.265-05:00Thank you for the prompt Grace. I hadn't thou...Thank you for the prompt Grace. I hadn't thought about this for awhile, and apparently it was time I did. Fortunately, there are medical advances since then, that can save children with these sorts of heart defects.Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-859401242211888920.post-72792233804791935692014-06-11T07:47:01.515-05:002014-06-11T07:47:01.515-05:00Oh, Brian, that's scary and sad. Your experien...Oh, Brian, that's scary and sad. Your experience, or maybe just your nature, seems to have got you to squeeze all the living possible into your time. I'm glad the ending worked, I considered leavving that the last stanza out. Other Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09189646933597252108noreply@blogger.com